Why We Don’t Show Our True Self
When was the last time you had a truly meaningful interaction with someone? If you’re struggling to picture a time when a conversation got beyond the standard surface level ‘how are you?’ and ‘how’s work?’ questions, you are far from alone. You see, so many of us simply don’t know how to express ourselves in ways that allow people to really know who we are.
In the last week alone, I have been on the radio three times discussing the difficulties that we all face in being open and showing the world who we really are. Ultimately, I believe that there are three core reasons why we might feel like this at any given time. The good news is that there are simple steps that can be taken to overcome those challenges and ensure that we are always being authentic and our true self.
We Don’t Know Who We Are
Knowing who we are might sound like something we should have an inherent understanding of, but it isn’t as easy as it first seems. Take a few moments to imagine how you would introduce yourself without talking about your family or your work. What would you say?
Too many of us fill our days with endless activities to avoid sitting in stillness and listening to our feelings and thoughts. But tuning into our inner self is the best way to understand who we are and what brings us joy. If you’re not sure where to start, meditation or simply going for a walk alone can be extraordinarily enlightening and bring a sense of stability.
We Don’t Think Anyone Else Shares Our Beliefs
Once we have gained a thorough understanding of who we are, it still isn’t always easy to share that with the world. We all want to be seen and understood but sometimes it can be difficult for us to believe that there are others out there who will really see and understand us. After all, none of us wants to feel rejected, right?
No matter how scary it can feel to be vulnerable and show your authentic self to the world, it is essential to remember that it really is the only way to make those all-important connections that make for an enjoyable and fulfilled life. Plus, when you do connect with people who understand you and share your beliefs, you will immediately feel more confident. And when that happens, it will start to feel a bit easier living a life that is authentically yours.
We Don’t Believe That We Are Remarkable
When we lose our confidence, even the smallest everyday tasks can start to feel impossible. But when we believe that we are remarkable, we start to see all the things we have to offer. After all, none of us are the clothes we wear or the car we drive. By going inwards to acknowledge everything that we really are, we are giving ourselves the opportunity to do remarkable things.
And all it comes down to is giving ourselves the permission to sit with ourselves and tune into the things we believe in. All relationships need to be nurtured, particularly the one we have with ourselves.